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What concerns do clients have before their first visit to a BDSM apartment?

First Time in a BDSM Apartment

Overcome your fears and discover that the experience can be safe, comfortable and exciting.

Dear ones, fear and anxiety about the first meeting in a BDSM apartment are completely understandable – but let’s not be afraid of it. Remember, many of these fears are created in our minds, which is why we want to dispel them and show that the devil is not as scary as he’s painted.

Fear of pain or loss of control
People often fear that BDSM always means intense pain or losing control of the situation – which is not true when proper communication and agreements are in place.

Shame and embarrassment
Fear of judgment, humiliation, or exposing one’s fantasies – especially in the context of societal taboos surrounding BDSM.

Lack of trust in the dominant (or submissive) person
Fear that the other side may cross boundaries, not adhere to the ‘SSC’ rules (safe, sane, consensual), or fail to ensure emotional and physical safety.

Uncertainty about one’s own boundaries and preferences
Often clients don’t know what to expect from themselves – how they will react, what will please them, what will frighten them, what might be too much for them. 1

Fear of addiction or emotional loss of control
Some people fear that the emotions will be too intense or that the bond with the dominant person will affect them more than they anticipated.

Concern about discretion
Especially for public figures, people in relationships, or those with a strong sense of privacy – it’s important whether the apartment guarantees complete anonymity and confidentiality.

Fear that ‘there’s something wrong with me’
Psychological concerns: are my fantasies ‘normal’? Does BDSM mean I have some emotional issue?