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Truth or myth? How is it with BDSM?

BDSM without Secrets

Debunking myths and unveiling the true gace of BDSM – introducing the world of eroticism.

In this space, we can ask ourselves many questions about the myths surrounding BDSM. Let’s start by clearing up a few of them – hopefully, this will help us understand this fascinating world of eroticism a little better.

✅ Truth: BDSM is based on the consent of all parties
Everything should be done with the explicit, informed and enthusiastic consent of the participants. In the BDSM community, this is a foundational principle: “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” or “RACK” (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink).

❌ Myth: BDSM is violence
No. BDSM is different from violence precisely because of consent and trust. It may look intense, but it has clear boundaries, safety signals and takes place under controlled conditions.

✅ Truth: BDSM can deepen a relationship
For many, exploring boundaries, roles and fantasies together strengthens intimacy and communication.

❌ Mit: Ludzie uprawiający BDSM są „nienormalni” albo mają problemy psychiczne
Nie ma dowodów, że BDSM wiąże się ze zdrowiem psychicznym w negatywnym sensie. To preferencja seksualna, a nie zaburzenie. Dla wielu osób to sposób wyrażania siebie i budowania relacji.

✅ Truth: BDSM doesn’t always have to be violent or painful
BDSM is more about power dynamics, trust and role-playing than pain itself. Some never engage in physical practices.

❌ Myth: BDSM is sick

✅ Truth: It’s a myth based on stereotypes
Psychological studies (e.g., from 2013, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine) show that BDSM practitioners are, on average, more open, less neurotic and just as mentally healthy as those without these practices.

❌ Myth: Submission means being weak or desperate

✅ Truth: Submission is a conscious choice
Often dominant people in everyday life (e.g. leaders, bosses) like to cede control in the intimate sphere. Submission requires trust, self-awareness and courage.

❌ Myth: A dominant is an aggressive type who likes to hurt

✅ Truth: Dominance is about care, responsibility and control
A good “Dom” (dominant) not only “rules”, but reads his partner’s signals, knows his limits and always prioritizes safety.

❌ Myth: BDSM is all about spanking and handcuffs

✅ Truth: BDSM includes hundreds of different forms of activity:
– psychological (slave role, pet play, silent training),
– physical (shibari, pegging, sensory deprivation),
– ritualistic (shoe cleaning rituals, diaries, D/s contracts),
– aesthetic (latex, uniforms, masks, visual domination).

❌ Myth: People who practice BDSM were victims of violence

✅ Truth: There is no such dependency
While some may have had difficult experiences and through BDSM work through them, most simply have this style of sexual or emotional expression.

❌ Myth: BDSM requires a lot of experience or equipment

✅ Truth: You don’t need ropes, St. Andrew’s crosses or a full latex outfit
You can start with simple forms – verbal domination, blindfolded play, setting rules, spanking, roles.

Dear friends, we can exchange opinions endlessly, but the truth is that BDSM – if based on mutual understanding – can give us a lot of pleasure. Remember: the key to having fun is communication.